If you read my post yesterday Unrequited love you’d understand what this is all about. But I'm not so sure if I will make any connections at all to the title :D

The post somehow came off with something like “I’m about to turn down” a guy, but nope. 

So far, I don’t think someone is planning to confess, well, if there’s, I’d make sure he’ll never get the chance to say it. That’s how I run things with guys.

Unrequited love does not only refer to someone whose love was unreturned but also to the rejecter.  If you think that during courting (or confession time), it’s only the guy that feels uneasy, well, guys! You better think again because I tell you. It’s not. Girls somehow would feel pressured as to how is she gonna turn you down in a lesser pain way. I’m saying this through my very own experience.

This happened few years back perhaps around my teen years.

There was this guy who likes me so much (I could tell how serious he was) and it took him years before he could finally say it to me. It was a huge chance for him. There was no one else but us in his place, listening to some anime songs choosing which one of those hundreds of song is to be downloaded and burn. If there’s something we have in common, it was the Japanese manga series, music and language. We’re both addicted to it. He even has all these expensive collections of Japanese anime characters miniatures or whatever you call it. When he started talking, he was sweating; I could sense how nervous he was. His hands were shaking, his voice was trembling. He’s unstable but he was trying his best. It was impressive. I was impressed. I was flattered how my presence could make him shiver like that but I was honestly worried at the same time. I’m worried about him. Me. Us. The Friendship. That awkward moment when I can’t help but to feel the same thing he was feeling-the nervousness. I was nervous because I might say something I might regret after or something that might hurt him.

One of my most feared moment was being rejected and rejecting someone.

Why I fear being rejected?

Because it makes me feel a little less of myself. It makes me feel like I’m too dumb to be accepted. It makes me feel like I’m not worth it. It makes me feel worse. It depresses me. It makes me crazy. That’s one reason why it was so hard for me to reject someone-because I can totally relate.

My reason of rejecting someone: a very simple answer. I don’t like him or I like someone else (I think the latter would do). But I don’t usually use this line to reject someone. It’s too cruel, you think? No matter how much you say that it’s the best way. It‘s the most easiest, direct and honest way to wrap things up.  But for me, it’s not. I have my ways but I don’t think it’s working either. I would usually run around the bush. When I’m about to reject someone I will start the statement with..

I appreciate your feelings. I’m flattered you like me. You’re nice, kind and you thought so much of me. I am thankful, but you deserve someone better (better than me), someone who can return all your feelings and kindness and it’s not me. 

But that’s the irony of it because the very reason he’s courting you was because you are his choice-his best choice.

No arguments there.

But when he asked me,

Why don’t you like me? Was it because I’m not handsome (but he’s not so bad looking and it really doesn’t matter if he is, though I must admit, appearance do play an important role, but if you really like someone, it doesn’t matter how bad he looks like)?

Was it because I’m not rich (but they’re actually well off)?

He said, yeah, girls are like that, they always prefer someone good-looking and all. But wait, I would think who wouldn’t want that? After all it’s the first thing that would matter-the looks.

What about you guys?

I mean, I wanted to ask him, what about you? Didn’t you court me because you find me pretty or the kind? I mean, let’s not be hypocrite here.

We all have reasons.

But the very thing is that-we just don’t click. That’s all. You keep your reasons, I’ll keep mine.

Ugh. Explaining this to him would do no good. Why? Because whatever nice words you will say to him, he would not listen. He would simply want you answer-yes to him.

Let’s turn the table guys.

Picture this out.

What if I will confess that I like you (and you don’t like me for real), what would you do? Court me out of pity? You wouldn’t want to go out with a girl you don’t like, would you? Hit on me for your sexual advantage? (The usual thing a guy would do)? Ignore me? Or? Are you gonna tell me you don’t like me because I’m not pretty and definitely not your type? (Rarely things a guy would do)? Or just smile on me? or yeah, best line would be "I like someone else too! ^_^

Confusing eh?

But guys, life is like that. If not being accepted, you’ll be rejected. You will either be the one playing the rejecter part or the one being rejected. Take your pick. That’s life.  It was always been that way even before you were born. 

What I really want to say is that. Don’t feel bad about being rejected with your feelings towards someone because you will never know that someone else out there is looking you at the same time feeling the same thing because of you. It’s just a matter of who gets the chance first.

Does it make sense? Guess not! HAHA. 


bleeeh ;-P

lol. ^_^

All along I thought that "unrequited love" means reunited love when it actually means quite not the opposite but almost. 


Why am I talking about this? I dunno really. Maybe because I have been influenced with Japanese movies these days and some scenes in the movie portrays an unrequited love or such. It is something that does not happen only in movies but in real life. 


Agree?


An unrequited love.


Scene:


When a guy confesses his feelings towards a girl, if he's serious, he'd probably feel nervous..aye? He would think it was him who's doing, exerting a great effort to confess. Of course, seemingly hoping the girl he's wooing will see or realize how much effort he put through to overcome the feeling of agitation. 


But the moment he got rejected, (contrary to what he's expecting) he would gone wild. He'll ignore the girl. Avoid her. Curse her. Hate her or worse?


For what reason? for feeling discarded? 


Hah!


Would he rather want the girl to say yes out of pity? 


I think he should thank the girl for being honest. 


Correct? 


Respect the girls decision and move on. Find someone else, go on a hunt! (there are plenty of girls). 


Yeah. Yeah. I know! there's no one else like her. But what he do? the girl has someone else in her mind. The girl has it's own heart to follow..


Let's turn the table next :)

I'm currently watching this Korean drama series "12 Men In A Year" don't worry this is not a review" ^_^, it's just that..


It's my sister! 


she keeps telling me that I will never get myself a boyfriend. That I'm pitiful because I'm single. Jobless and unluckily penniless :( 


At some point, she's right. 


But what can I do? It's not like I'm gonna die not being in a relationship, right? But probably die of famished. 


Sure, being in a relationship seems to be fun. You have someone with you not all the time but atleast someone who's oblige to "think" of you every now and then, if he even bothers. lol
Someone who will treat you out for a date (waste money on you) and greets you in the morning, afternoon and evening. Someone who will constantly sweep you out of your feet. Someone who acts nicely, treat you like a princess or even a queen. Someone who says sweet nothings. Someone who will argue with you, laugh with you or worse makes you cry but will kiss your tears away in the end. Someone who can turn your world upside down. Someone to think of and someone other than friends and family you can build your future with..


Should I go on?


Nope.


I'd rather not. 


I might not stop :)


You see. There are some good aspects of having a relationship but as I mentioned in my previous (so long ago) post, there were reasons why I remained single and my sister just don't get it.


You think I should get one?


and then snap!


Nope.  I don't think so. I'd rather be single than to go out with different guys I don't like :p 


Hmm..I remember my cousin once told me, 

you should find a guy who likes you more than you do.

but I actually prefer the contrary. 


I don't know why. It's just that. I am more than happy being with someone I like a lot even if he likes me less. weird eh?


Hay. I dunno how will this topic ends up but basically I need to connect the whole thing to the title "12 Men In A Year" ..


..hmm, I was thinking of giving myself a break. aye? I need to loosen up a little. 


I need to start hunting-GUY HUNTING..


and we even come up with a style. 


whatever that is, it will be shared once it's being realize :)


As for now, a question was being raised.


Which would you prefer. He/She likes you more than you do or the contrary?

note: this isn't my story to tell but since I knew about his situation, I think my blogmates deserves a piece of this :)

tell me what you think after ^_^

The Saying

~ Give, but do not allow yourself to be used; Love,but do not allow your heart to be abused; Trust, but do not be naive; Listen to others, but do not lose yourself.

The Guy

A friend of mine. Smart. Intelligent. Mr. Nice Guy. Understanding. Generous. and STUPID!

The Girl

My friend's co-worker. Sweet. Liar. Player. and a BITCH!

The Rant

Last night, I couldn't stop laughing while reading my friend's text messages. It wasn't the first time he shared something about his love life. His heart has been broken a few times already! And this isn't new to me either. I've watched my friends bleed Janine was one of them, well, to be fair, she wasn't that hurt really, she felt bad (yes!) because she didn't do anything to deserve all those lies and suffered due to a broken heart, most of them were girls. Well, that doesn't excuse me from heartaches. I broke my heart once and it was awful and seriously damaging, but duh? let's not talk about my broken heart. I'm so over it now. 

My point is, how could someone be so heartless to take advantage of someone else's feelings? They act as if they like him, they tend to be so sweet, utter sweet nothings to make you fall for them-to gain your trust. 

Yeah!

Only bitches do that. Bitches are leeches! They suck you, probably, they suck not your blood! lol, till your last drop to get what they want. They don't feel ashamed about it because they don't think about other people, they only think about themselves. oh! Oh! The leech, shameless bitch!

The Story

Few weeks ago, my friend had this rhetoric speech about his co-worker he fell in love with. I met the girl when I went to his work place after my brother's proposal. There was nothing special about her. But, that's not the point, aye? The thing is, he fell in love with her, for whatever reason, you'll find it out later. 

So, this girl is not as innocent as he thought. She's a single mom and yet acting like a bitch. I don't know when it all started. They just assumed they're in a relationship because they exchanged "i love you's" or more than that? (you know what I mean). My friend is a little extravagant you know. Whenever he has girlfriends, he tend to forget everything else,(like the gift he promised for my graduation) he'd give everything for his girl, money, time and effort. He's lured with the girl's flowery words and messages, maybe kisses and more than that. haha! (I am so dead!)

So anyway, to cut it short, he later found out that whatever they have or had, whatever, was all a lie. That the girl has been using him all along, to have someone she could ask for money when she needed it. Most surprisingly, what he believed to be a single girlfriend turns out to be a single mom, worse than that, an irresponsible single mom who use her kids for the sympathy of other,or so. That it wasn't the first time she did that to a guy. She did that a countless times already (which I find very unacceptable)-to every guy, to be exact.

When I first heard all of this, I don't wanna believe it. I even told him to ask the girl in person, so she would know what he thinks about her, or atleast, she wouldn't look stupid not knowing someone's lurking and saying some bad things about her. I told my friend to confirm it first, who knows that the one who told him only wants to back-stab the girl, right? or, maybe it's just her way of surviving. A lot of girls do that for a living, and I don't wanna be the one to judge. 

As much as I wanna take the side of the girl, seemingly hoping somewhere her dark facade lies a very disturbing truth behind her action, something that made her do that, something acceptable and reasonable enough, but when he told me it was her sister and her closest friend who told him because the sister and the girl's friend felt so bad, guilty and pitied on him that's why they wanted him to know, for his sake, and that he really deserves to hear it. 

But he found that out a few weeks ago!!! take note, a few weeks ago but he still go out with her!!! can you believe how stupid my friend is? Very stupid indeed! beyond comprehension! oh my!!! 

And now, he wanna break up with her, I'm not sure if he did it (because the last time he tried, the girl's sad face and i love you's made him forgot whatever it is that he wants to say to her) but I hope he really did. And now, penniless, he still loves her. HAHA! I know he hates her for playing on him, but he really can't deny the fact that despite of him noted as the smart one- he fell, took the bait and now was left BROKENHEARTED! HAHA!!!

I didn't mean to say this, but I do agree, it was him who did it to himself. He can't blame the girl for being so good about what she does. The bitch was an expert. Hands down!It was his choice to be used and to be fooled anyway. Knowing he knew about her earlier than now, and yet still, he didn't mind so much about it because he was hoping something..

..something STUPID! and now, look who's being STUPID?! hahahaha!